On the whole, I think I spent a lot of high school just trying to stay under the radar: I don't think I was all that memorable.
I'm all about shrimpburgers, reading, and going to the beach.
In high school, I was lucky enough to have a big group of girlfriends that have really inspired a lot of the stories in my books. I'm still close with my friends from that time, so it's never very hard to put myself back into that place, that voice.
I was always a big reader, mostly because my parents were.
I've changed in my sympathies since I've become a mother myself. In high school I went through a period where I was close with my mom and had to break with her in order to find myself and come back. Since that was my experience, that's often what happens in my books.
I always wished I could move around and switch schools. It was hard to have these radical transformations. You'd think, 'I will be a totally different person tomorrow,' but it never worked.
I'm really happy to have the chance to talk about the editing process. It's something that I think doesn't get the weight it deserves, especially with the rise of self-publishing.
I just started to put texting and phones in my books. I want my books to be read 20 years from now; I don't want them to be dated.
If I had to pick, I'd say my favorite book is 'A Prayer For Owen Meany', by John Irving.
I can't sit and twiddle my thumbs. I have to start writing even if it's miserable some days.
I love writing about the summer between high school and college. It's the last gasp of really being a teen.
I don't live in New York or California. I'm in the grocery store, at the park with my kids, and I'm a normal person. I'm feeding my chickens and agonizing about my next book!
I think my mother characters have changed a lot since Sasha was born, just because I understand what a hard job it is now, and I'm coming at it from another angle - like you just love and care about this person so much, and just want to protect them from everything.
I'm famously secretive about my work. Nobody reads my books till they're finished.
I've been writing, in one way or another, for as long as I can remember.
I've never envied the person who had to put my books together in one script.
I didnt pay atteniton to times or distance, instead focusing on how it felt just to be in motion, knowing it wasn't about the finish line but how I got there that mattered.
Too many locks, not enough keys.
All those clean, fresh starts had made me forget what it was like, until now, to be messy and honest and out of control. To be real.
That was the hard thing about grief, and the grieving. They spoke another language, and the words we knew always fell short of what we wanted them to say.
Love is needing someone. Love is putting up with someone's bad qualities because they somehow complete you.
I always have a goal, even if I keep it to myself. It allows me to keep pushing myself.
If you try anything, if you try to lose weight, or to improve yourself, or to love, or to make the world a better place, you have already achieved something wonderful, before you even begin. Forget failure. If things don't work out the way you want, hold your head up high and be proud. And try again. And again. And again!
What you have to decide... is how you want your life to be. If your forever was ending tomorrow, would this be how you'd want to have spent it? Listen, the truth is, nothing is guaranteed. You know that more than anybody. So dont be afraid. Be alive.
I hated high school. I was not the greatest student, participated in no activities, and spent most of my time hanging out in my parking lot.
I like flaws. I think they make things interesting.
I just thought to my self, all of a sudden, that we had something in common. A natural chemistry, if you will. And I had a feeling that something big was going to happen. To both of us. That we were, in fact, meant to be together.
I had no illusions about love anymore. It came, it went, it left casualties or it didn't. People weren't meant to be together forever, regardless of what the songs say.
My agent is so totally honest, which is just what every writer needs. She won't let me sell a crappy book, even if I want to.
Don't think or judge, just listen.
The choices you make now, the people you surround yourself with, they all have the potential to affect your life, even who you are, forever.
I think I'm way too much of a control freak to co-author anything with anyone. I have a hard enough time writing with myself! I admire people that can do it, but it's not for me.
Music is the great uniter. An incredible force. Something that people who differ on everything and anything else can have in common.
Anyone can hide. Facing up to things, working through them, that's what makes you strong.
Let's just start and see what happens.
I think the most important thing is just to write. It sounds so simple, but sometimes it's not. You can get so distracted - -by having to work other jobs, or what other people have to say about your writing - -but the one thing that really matters is that you just keep going, especially when you're working on a novel. It's so easy to get discouraged and give up.
There comes a time when the world gets quiet and the only thing left is your own heart. So you'd better learn the sound of it. Otherwise you'll never understand what it's saying.
You should never be surprised when someone treats you with respect, you should expect it.
Grieving doesn't make you imperfect. It makes you human.
And no relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater.