People read vampire novels and say, 'Oh I want to read another vampire novel.' People read fantasy, and they're like, 'Oh I love fantasy.' I don't know that people are necessarily finishing 'Hunger Games' and immediately wanting to read another dystopian tale.
I love bouncing my words off of someone else's, and the fact that writing a story with someone else guarantees you'll get something you never, ever would have written on your own.
I can honestly say I've never thought for a second about whether a character reflects poorly on any group. All that matters to me is that the character is true to my belief in who he or she is.
There's no such thing as a perfect person, so it makes no sense to write a perfect person. I don't know any author who'd try. And we write characters, not representations of groups.
There's no way for them to take away my sadness, but they can make sure I am not empty of all the other feelings.
You have to trust the words. They do not create anything more than themselves.
this blue shirt i have is practically the same color as my jeans, and looking all-blue is something only cookie monster can pull off.
I am constantly torn between killing myself and killing everyone around me.
It is its own form of conversation - you can learn a lot about people from the stories they tell, but you can also know them from the way they sing along, whether they like the windows up or down, if they live by the map or by the world, if they feel the pull of the ocean.
If we actually thought about every decision we made, we'd be paralyzed ... You have to decide which decisions you're actually going to make, and then you have to let the rest of them go.
What separates us from the animals, what separates us from the chaos, is our ability to mourn people we've never met.
And maybe it is only by finding yourself that you can feel the true intensity of becoming close to another person.
I am proud that I defy your categories. I am proud that I don't fit easily into any box. I am proud of all the things I am and all the things i can be. Question yourself every time you think you only see one thing in me.
Trying to write about love is ultimately like trying to have a dictionary represent life. No matter how many words there are, there will never be enough.
I am stronger than words and I am bigger than the box I'm in, and then I see her in the crowd and I fall apart.
I no longer think she's just being nice. She's being kind. Which is much more a sign of character than mere niceness. Kindness connects to who you are, while niceness connects to how you want to be seen.
We always see our worst selves. Our most vulnerable selves. We need someone else to get close enough to tell us we're wrong. Someone we trust.
Things that matter are not easy. Feelings of happiness are easy. Happiness is not. Flirting is easy. Love is not. Saying you're friends is easy. Being friends is not.
I guess I don't believe these things can ever be easy, although I also don't see why they have to be hard.
We'd said we'd keep in touch. But touch is not something you can keep; as soon as it's gone, it's gone. We should have said we'd keep in words, because they are all we can string between us-words on a telephone line, words appearing on a screen.
You have to believe there are kisses and laughs and risks worth taking.
If there's one thing I've learned, it's this: We all want everything to be okay. We don't even wish so much for fantastic or marvelous or outstanding. We will happily settle for okay, because most of the time, okay is enough.
Remember that at any given moment there are a thousand things you can love.
People are rarely as attractive in reality as they are in the eyes of the people who are in love with them. Which is, I suppose, as it should be.
I preferred to hang out with the dead, dying, or desperate books - used we call them, in a way that we'd never call a person, unless we meant it cruelly
There are all these moments you don't think you will survive. And then you survive.
Kindness connects to who you are, while niceness connects to how you want to be seen.
I never felt the urge to jump off a bridge, but there are times I have wanted to jump out of my life, out of my skin.
Maybe relationships could have fractals, too. And maybe the sense of loss was when you're becoming a fractal of what you once were to each other.
Part of growing up is making sure your sense of reality isn't entirely grounded in your own mind.
There is no such thing as no choice. There is always a choice. The only question is whether it's a bearable one.
But there was something about you that made me think of sparks and motion.
Every relationship has a hard part at the beginning. This is our hard part. It's not like a puzzle piece where there's an instant fit. With relationships, you have to shape the pieces on each end before they go perfectly together.
Luckily, I always travel with a book, just in case I have to wait on line for Santa, or some such inconvenience.
When you live as I do, you cannot indulge in jealousy. If you do, it will rip you apart.
You can't know what it is like for us now-you will always be one step behind. Be thankful for that. You can't know what it was like for us then-you will always be one step ahead. Be thankful for that, too.
Answerless questions can destroy you. Move on.
This is a difference between us: you desire what other people have, while I desire the things I used to have, or think I might have one day.
The more kindness and justice are challenged, the more we must embrace them. Only when you are challenged - and only when you challenge yourself - do you discover what truly matters.
this is why we call people exes, I guess - because the paths that cross in the middle end up separating at the end. it's too easy to see an X as a cross-out. it's not, because there's no way to cross out something like that. the X is a diagram of two paths.