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    Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: choice  abuse 
     
    Stop shoulding on yourself.
    — Albert Ellis
    Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: people  human  acceptance 
     
    The art of love... is largely the art of persistence
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: persistence 
     
    Self- esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: men  women 
     
    Religious creeds encourage some of the craziest kinds of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and favor severe manifestations of neurosis, borderline personality states, and sometimes even psychosis.
    — Albert Ellis
    Religious fanaticism has clearly produced, and in all probability will continue to produce, enormous amounts of bickering, fighting, violence, bloodshed, homicide, feuds, wars, and genocide.
    — Albert Ellis
    Whenever you avoid alarming situations, you almost always increase your anxiety about them.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: anxiety 
     
    I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: hate  war 
     
    I hope to die in the saddle seat.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: die  hope 
     
    Worry itself is one of the most painful conditions.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: worries 
     
    I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: people 
     
    You have only to exist as you do and to live your life as best you can.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: live 
     
    I would have liked having children to some degree, but frankly I haven't got the time to take the kids to the goddamn ballgame.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: children  time  child  kids 
     
    Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: criticism  people 
     
    People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: people 
     
    There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: men  women  sex 
     
    Most things worth having require some sacrifice, usually more than you expect.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: sacrifice 
     
    And just as two wrongs don't make a right, rage against offenders is probably the worst way to try to correct them.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: right  wrong 
     
    The individual is taught that there is nothing that he as a total person is to feel ashamed of or self-hating for.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: people 
     
    Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: emotional 
     
    Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: belief  world  real 
     
    Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them.
    — Albert Ellis
    We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: people  past  thinking 
     
    Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: food  decision 
     
    If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: work 
     
    To forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: people  poor 
     
    Neurosis is just a high- class word for whining.
    — Albert Ellis
    The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less chance there is that he will be a happy, healthy, or law abiding citizen. He will become a compulsive wrong-doer.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: chance  people  law  healthy 
     
    Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: failure  people  value 
     
    You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thorough going key to serenity.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: key 
     
    People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: people  thoughts 
     
    Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: people 
     
    Worrying about dying will hardly help you live.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: live  dying  help 
     
    We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming- or damning.
    — Albert Ellis
    People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: people  insight 
     
    Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly- without attacking others.
    — Albert Ellis
    Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: strong 
     
    The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action.
    — Albert Ellis
    tags: action  help 
     
    The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.
    — Albert Ellis
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