albert ellis Quotes

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse.
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— Albert Ellis
Stop shoulding on yourself.
— Albert Ellis
Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.
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— Albert Ellis
The art of love... is largely the art of persistence
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— Albert Ellis
Self- esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.
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— Albert Ellis
Religious creeds encourage some of the craziest kinds of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and favor severe manifestations of neurosis, borderline personality states, and sometimes even psychosis.
— Albert Ellis
Religious fanaticism has clearly produced, and in all probability will continue to produce, enormous amounts of bickering, fighting, violence, bloodshed, homicide, feuds, wars, and genocide.
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— Albert Ellis
Whenever you avoid alarming situations, you almost always increase your anxiety about them.
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— Albert Ellis
I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing.
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— Albert Ellis
I hope to die in the saddle seat.
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— Albert Ellis
Worry itself is one of the most painful conditions.
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— Albert Ellis
I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.
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— Albert Ellis
You have only to exist as you do and to live your life as best you can.
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— Albert Ellis
I would have liked having children to some degree, but frankly I haven't got the time to take the kids to the goddamn ballgame.
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— Albert Ellis
Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.
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— Albert Ellis
People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.
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— Albert Ellis
There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
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— Albert Ellis
Most things worth having require some sacrifice, usually more than you expect.
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— Albert Ellis
And just as two wrongs don't make a right, rage against offenders is probably the worst way to try to correct them.
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— Albert Ellis
The individual is taught that there is nothing that he as a total person is to feel ashamed of or self-hating for.
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— Albert Ellis
Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.
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— Albert Ellis
Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.
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— Albert Ellis
Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them.
— Albert Ellis
We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.
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— Albert Ellis
Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth.
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— Albert Ellis
If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.
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— Albert Ellis
To forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic.
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— Albert Ellis
Neurosis is just a high- class word for whining.
— Albert Ellis
The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less chance there is that he will be a happy, healthy, or law abiding citizen. He will become a compulsive wrong-doer.
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— Albert Ellis
Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.
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— Albert Ellis
You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thorough going key to serenity.
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— Albert Ellis
People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.
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— Albert Ellis
Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate.
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— Albert Ellis
Worrying about dying will hardly help you live.
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— Albert Ellis
We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming- or damning.
— Albert Ellis
People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.
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— Albert Ellis
Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly- without attacking others.
— Albert Ellis
Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up.
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— Albert Ellis
The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action.
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— Albert Ellis
The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.
— Albert Ellis