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    I did plays in college, and I have half of a play. But I'm kind of stuck. I keep revisiting it so maybe it will move somewhere. There's something about plays where you can feel that sense of artifice at any moment.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: moment  college 
     
    I think teaching keeps me honest because if I'm up in front of a class talking about what I think is important about fiction while knowing I myself have just failed to do that hours earlier at my computer - it's a good and humbling reminder.
    — Aimee Bender
    For me, even in my first book, the pleasures of writing anything magical is that it has to be physical. It has to be grounded and very much in this world. Then, I get to play with all the consequences of this new thing.
    — Aimee Bender
    One thing I don't want to feel is marketplace pressure, so I'm really glad I enjoy teaching because I can rely on that for a salary. I think it would be such a different game if I had to write a book that has to sell well.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: teaching  book  write  games  sell 
     
    At readings, audience members sometimes ask if I keep writing past the two hours if I'm on a roll, but I don't. I figure that if I'm on a roll, it's partially because I know I'm about to stop.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: past  writing  reading 
     
    Writing can be a frightening, distressing business, and whatever kind of structure or buffer is available can help a lot.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: help  writing  business 
     
    I like the idea of a place that is dealing with painful, messy, frightening, and very human events that is also so beautiful and ethereal.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: beautiful  human  ideas 
     
    As a kid, I often figured it was good to be patient to a fault.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: kids 
     
    I noticed, when I taught elementary school, how true the squeaky wheel thing is, and how endearing squeaky wheels can be! Because when you're being a squeaky wheel, you're also really letting people know who you are.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: people  true  school 
     
    I love the idea of numerology, but I don't really believe in it. But I like thinking about what numbers convey.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: believe  thinking  ideas 
     
    I developed a prejudice in high school that it was all going to be boring. That kind of teenage, why-do-I-have-to-read-these-goddamn-classics feeling. And then you discover that the classics are classics because they're lively. They don't stick around because they're boring. If they're boring, they go away.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: prejudice  school 
     
    There's a spectrum of those moments of connection and the moments we fail to connect, going from super-large successes to failures. Success would be love, I guess, and failure could still be love, but the bad side; and loss.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: failure  loss  moment  bad  success  fail 
     
    Novels are so much unrulier and more stressful to write. A short story can last two pages and then it's over, and that's kind of a relief. I really like balancing the two.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: novel  stories  write 
     
    Generally, I think most of my writing tends to have some kind of magical element to it. That's the way I can access the emotional life of the character.
    — Aimee Bender
    I love food. I'm not a great cook, but I love to cook, and I like how different it is from writing.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: food  writing 
     
    For me as a person, friendships are incredibly important to me, but in writing, they can distract me.
    — Aimee Bender
    I get a little myopic in the act of doing any writing. I think I'm not as interested or not as able to write about balance, because I think there's something I want to try to get at. I'm trying to get at something about the experience of growing up or about families.
    — Aimee Bender
    I really like feeling connected to people and feeling like I have a good, solid sense of empathy.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: people  empathy 
     
    I don't eschew autobiographical writing, but I'm not interested in mine to be so straightforward. The things that tend to move me the most are often those that I have to figure out its meaning for myself. The human being's ability to make a metaphor to describe a human experience is just really cool.
    — Aimee Bender
    Some creative writing programs seem evil, but my experience at Irvine was totally the opposite, where I feel like they were really good at focusing in on each writers voice and setting. When I felt like I was obligated to write a story that was more typical, no one really liked it.
    — Aimee Bender
    As a kid, I liked making up stories, and I wrote a story about a kangaroo and a bat with Christy Chang, and she went on to become a surgeon.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: stories  kids 
     
    I liked Hans Christian Andersen because the tales were so dark and tragic.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: dark  christian 
     
    I love all the arts - so museums, theatre, music, walks near trees or by the ocean, time with people, psychological readings.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: time  people  ocean  music  reading 
     
    I write on a very strict 2-hour-a-day schedule, and I really respond to structure and invented rules. So even if I'm finding out good information on a character, I will stop when I'm set to stop.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: character  rules  write 
     
    I have trouble describing my own style, since it's sort of like describing my own eye color or something.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: eyes 
     
    In terms of foods for me, I think I have more of the usual associations - foods from childhood that I associate with care and love, from relatives or special restaurants like the kind elderly man who dusted seasoning salt on French fries at the corner burger joint.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: men  food  care  childhood 
     
    I find I can write for two lines, and then I have nothing else to say. For me, the only way to find something comes through the sentence level and sticking with the sentences that give a subtle feeling that there's something more to say.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: write 
     
    Granted, I'm someone who loves words. I've always loved poetry - so it's suited to me.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: poetry 
     
    I was with them for all of it, but more like an echo than a participant.
    — Aimee Bender
    ...a Dorito asks nothing of you, which is its great gift. It only asks that you are not there.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: gift 
     
    It seems the best work I do is when I am really allowing the unconscious to rule the page and then later I can go back and hack around and make sense of things...
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: work  rules 
     
    Language is the ticket to plot and character, after all, because both are built out of language.
    — Aimee Bender
    There's a gift in your lap and it's beautifully wrapped and it's not your birthday. You feel wonderful, you feel like somebody knows you're alive, you feel fear because it could be a bomb, because you think you're that important.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: fear  gift 
     
    I knew if I ate anything of hers again, it would lkely tell me the same message: help me, I am not happy, help me - like a message in a bottle sent in each meal to the eater, and I got it. I got the message.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: help 
     
    My lover is experiencing reverse evolution.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: lover  evolution 
     
    I'm obsessed with adolescence. I love to write about people in their 20s. It's such a fraught and exciting and kind of horrible time.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: time  people  write 
     
    We hit the sidewalk, and dropped hands. How I wished, right then, that the whole world was a street.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: world  right 
     
    It seemed to happen in springs, the revealing of things.
    — Aimee Bender
    I peeled the skin off a grape in slippery little triangles, and I understood then that I would be undressing every item of food I could because my clothes would be staying on.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: food 
     
    That's the thing with handmade items. They still have the person's mark on them, and when you hold them, you feel less alone. This is why everyone who eats a Whopper leaves a little more depressed than they were when they came in. Nobody cooked that burger.
    — Aimee Bender
    tags: alone 
     
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    aimee bender
    Birth    : June 28, 1969
    Occupation  : Novelist